Sexual Taboos 2: Masturbation
“Sorry I’m late, I was having a wank”
Let’s face it – that’s not something you’re ever likely to hear. Although masturbation is more acceptable now, it still holds a stigma and shame. Although people might openly say in a general sense that they masturbate, there are very few people who are ever specific.
For example – there you are having a wank and the phone rings. Do you answer it? If you answer it do you admit that you’re out of breath because “I was just having a wank” I’m guessing NOT for most people. More likely they would make up something about running for the phone, putting up shelves or some little fib or other.
If you don’t answer the phone and then call back when you’ve errr… finished, do you say why you didn’t answer – “Sorry mate, couldn’t come to the phone till I’d come”
Again this seems pretty unlikely – at least no-one’s ever said it – not even to me and I’m the Orgasm Coach. Though if they did I’d be saying “Excellent work – Commendable”
So why is masturbation still shameful? Of all sexual taboos it seems pretty harmless so what’s the big deal?
Why is masturbation still shameful?
First let’s look to religion.
Many religions discourage masturbation. The bible warns against not “casting your seed on barren ground” I’ve found no specific reference to female masturbation in the bible.
Some religions believe that a man should not waste his sperm. By which they mean a man should only ejaculate for the purposes of procreation. These religions also believe their priests (only men) should never marry or have sex, or masturbate. Even the strictest Tantra disciplines say that orgasm should not be suppressed.
There are lots of things you can do with an orgasm but suppression is not considered healthy for many reasons.
Those religions that discourage orgasms in their priests in any way, suppressing orgasm, seem to have more reports of child sex abuse and other more serious taboos. I don’t know if there is a connection between a man suppressing orgasm and him abusing children. Maybe those who abuse don’t suppress their orgasm and DO masturbate. I don’t have any evidence other than speculation.
Let’s look at it from the perspective of energy and power.
All magic is sex magic. In many esoteric practices the raising of sexual energy through masturbation (for both men and women) is common place and fundamental to increasing power. The practice usually involves arousing sexual energy then transmuting it at the point of orgasm. This will increase a person’s health and vitality and also their power.
Ejaculation without transmuting the energy will be cause a man to lose his energy. Women also lose energy though not anywhere nearly as much as men do. Men and women who transmute their sexual energy will raise their energy – there are many other benefits but more of that later.
Now I’m not really into conspiracy theories but making masturbation at taboo would prevent the majority of people from accessing their own personal powerhouse.
So it seems possible that masturbation was made taboo to keep people’s sexual energy trapped in the body and only available in its most potent form for the few elite who were (are) in the know.
It’s also possible that it was for protection. To transmute sexual energy without first clearing oneself emotionally can trigger problems for a person. Someone who had lots of suppressed fear, for example who raised to full orgasmic energy would certainly become aware of their fears and it’s entirely possible that they might even think they were going mad. For such a person releasing their energy in a “wasted ejaculation” would be much safer.
Whatever the reason for masturbation being taboo, it’s still not socially acceptable to say – sorry I couldn’t answer the phone I was having a wank. One day it will be ok to say “I was raising and transmuting energy”
Until next time.