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Why your sex life has lost its sparkle and how to get it back.

Saturday, December 19th, 2009

42-15641366When a couple have been together for a while it’s easy for the sparkle to fade, for your sex life to become a bit hum drum, and those feelings of raging passion and raw lust that you felt in the beginning have given way to indifference and even boredom.

So we know this is “normal” but why does it happen and what can you do about it?

Sex is the glue that binds a couple together and the barometer of how well the relationship is doing.

It’s also the barometer of the levels of sexual energy within an individual. The reasons one person is attracted to another are complex but at the root of it is sexual energy, and sexual charge.

Within the body there is a polarity of sexual energy. Men have masculine energy in the head, and feminine energy in the genitals, women have the opposite, feminine energy in the heard, and masculine energy in the genitals.

It is this opposite polarities that causes the attraction and sexual charge.

For both men and women, these polarities flip at orgasm.

In addition men lose a vast amount of sexual charge. Most people don’t know how to recharge their sexual energy and so over time they both become depleted and then find their partner less attractive. The magnetism has gone, the sexual charge depleted.

At best this results in a platonic relationship, at worst infidelity results as one or other becomes attracted to the high sexual charge of the other.

By learning to re-charge yourself sexually you will become, once again magnetically attractive to your mate. Recharging your sexual batteries is the best way to maintain and even improve not only your sex life, but also your relationship.

Twittergasm Do Your Bit for Planetary Pleasure

Saturday, June 6th, 2009

Do Your Bit for Planetary Pleasure

The Twittergasm

One of my twitter pals came up with the idea of the twittergasm. The project is still in “draft” and so may change, but here is the current thinking.

What is the twittergasm?

Ecstacy A synchronised orgasm or any other pleasurable experience.

All you do is surrender yourself to bliss. On your own or with a partner enjoy yourself. Surrender to pure pleasure for just 15 minutes (or longer if you’re up to it).

 

  • Tweet that you are going to twittergasm
  • Tweet as you twittergasm (if you can)
  • Tweet when you have twittergasmed
  • Tweet that you did twittergasm
  • Any or all of the above is fine – just do your bit for bliss.

Why the twittergasm?

We live in a pleasure-starved culture that worships pain and suffering.  All we hear is “no pain no gain”

Page ImageSome even believe that suffering and martyrdom actually buys or earns you something, that it make you a better person somehow.

But being proud of suffering does nothing but cause more pain and suffering. Have you ever worked in a job where everyone brags about how much work they have to do? How busy they are? Have you ever found yourself trying to “up” the ante of suffering by saying something like “You think you’ve got it bad? Listen to what happened to me…”  like the Monty Python sketch where they all say “Luxury!”

Yes there will be suffering in your life, that’s part of living. But it’s not everything, it’s not the point of life and suffering is not some kind of currency that will bring you riches or health or happiness. It just brings you more suffering. When you believe this you will simply create and attract that into your life.

The whole ethos of the environment becomes “Look how much I’m suffering”

We’d like to turn this round and say no pain no pain. Pleasure please.

We’d like to remove the shame from sexual pleasure and orgasm. Your body was built for pleasure. You have a god given / divine right to enjoy it. so do it, do it now, do it for yourself.

Add to the sum total of pleasure on the planet.

word-in-handsAdd to the sum total of pleasure on the planet by increasing your individual pleasure. Add up the sum pleasure of all the individuals and the total planetary pleasure increases. Simple.

Come on! Do your bit for planetary bliss.

Why orgasms?

It doesn’t have to be an orgasm it can be ANYTHING that you find pleasurable. However Orgasms are considered the ultimate pleasure. Just maximise bliss in the body.

Other pleasure tweets could be

  • Eat something delicious chocolate or cake or ice-cream or a pie – an oral orgasm
  • Having or giving a massage
  • Stroking a pet -a pussy or puppy for example!
  • Walking in nature – spend some time in the bush
  • A luxurious bath – or refreshing swim – go and get wet
  • Anything that brings you pleasure

 Anorgasmia – cultural castration.

42-15652296Sadly many people, mostly women but men too, have difficulty achieving orgasm.

Shame about sex, taboo, inhibition, guilt, not feeling worthy of enjoying pleasure can all contribute to this problem which is much more widespread than people think.

The causes can be from mild sexual inhibition and lack of confidence, right through to sever sexual or emotional abuse as children or even adults. Many of my clients are women who have suffered from horrendous abuse so it is not surprising that they have lost touch with their bodies.

Don’t worry if you can’t achieve orgasm – just do something pleasurable anyway. And if you can’t achieve orgasm consider getting yourself ready with this programme for women.

If you can achieve orgasm why not come for those who can’t. Just imagine sending those pulses of pleasure out to your sisters and brothers on the planet who cannot yet surrender to the pleasure?

As a scientist I have no idea if this will “work” but as the saying goes “it’s the thought that counts” I believe that  for those men and women who can’t orgasm, just knowing that someone is sending them a surrogate orgasm will likely make them feel better, feel a little more loved.

Big firework

When is it?

The proposed date is fireworks day in the USA 4th July

Pledge your pleasure

Pledge your pleasure and donate £1 to charity and our sponsor will match the donation.

What we need – can you help?

A suitable charity possible ones might be:

  • sexual abuse support
  • a refuge (women’s or men’s)
  • one that helps people get out of the sex industry or supports sex workers (lot of my clients are ex-sex workers and abused people often end up as prostitutes)
  • a safe sex charity
  • aids charity
  • female circumcision charity

Lots of publicity.

If you are in the press – contact me on lisa@the-o-coach.com I’m told I interview well, and I

A sponsor

To match the £1 pledge – and / or just to help promote

companies like:

  • Durex
  • Virgin - Richard if you are reading this would you consider a  “virgin vibrator” if it’s for a good cause?
  • Love Honey – my favourite sex toy website – send all my clients there
  • The body shop

 A patron

Ideally a celebrity who is comfortable with their sexuality and loves to have fun.

Can you help?

Iif so e-mail me lisa@the-o-coach.com

And watch out for us on twitter

@DrLisaTurner

@Dr_whom Twittergasm site is here

@jordygal

@janeruffino

What is an orgasm?

Friday, February 20th, 2009

In the most basic sense an orgasm is nothing more than muscular tension released through a short series of contractions, which occur at approximately 0.8-second intervals.

Yet the amount of energy, time, devotion and dedication that men and women dedicate to them suggests they are something more than this.

We also know that, for both men and women, orgasms release a powerful cocktail of chemicals and neurotransmitters in the brain. Orgasms are intensely pleasurable and result in feelings of euphoria, relaxation and peace.

But this is just the physical experience of orgasm. There is so much more that we can do with our orgasms and orgasmic energy.

Currently sexuality in our society is very orgasm focussed. The attention seems to be on having more and more orgasms.

At the Orgasm Coach – the focus is not on quantity, but quality. And using the energy that orgasms generate to become powerful and successful in all areas of life, not just your sex life.